Wisdom and Kindness
Proverbs 31:26
“She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.”
You are unique
Stay true to yourself…
So often in our lives we have followed other people, as if to duplicate what we see and like in their behaviors or someone we connect with and possibly share the same interests. As we grow, we are always attempting to change and be a better version of ourselves. And in looking back, we see that we have all done this and/or maybe doing that very thing right now.
This approach may work for a while, but eventually, we realize that we need more growth and that God made us all “individuals” and no-one else has our character, personality, quirks, etc. So, during this process, the wonderful thing about experience comes Wisdom. Wisdom to make better choices, think for ourselves and be more creative.
Experience
Don’t forget others…
When we are learning to walk with Christ, we should lean on more knowledge to follow the correct paths that God has for us. For example, speaking, when necessary, this is very valuable because not everyone wants to hear our opinions. At times it is better to be silent until you hear from God and then you will make a better choice. He will tell us what to say and when to say it. The old saying is so true, “silence is golden”.
Also, with experience comes Kindness. When we were younger, we wanted to rush out and accomplish everything all at once, sometimes forgetting the cost of all that labor and stress and possibly in our quest to achieve, we forgot others along the way. Maybe we were unsympathetic or didn’t show enough empathy for someone or something in whatever the situation might be. But with Kindness, we are slow to act the way “we think we should” and we carry out intentions in a softer, gentler manner.
Wise as ever
Be kind, even when it costs you…
This also comes with age. Ask any woman how she would respond to a situation she reacted to in her twenties versus her fifties, and she will agree with that concept wholeheartedly. Wisdom and Kindness go hand in hand, in that you need “both” to live the Proverbs 31 lifestyle. As we continue to learn and grow in God’s word, we also become more Humble and slower to react to drama and chaos.
Our older generations will confess that it is better to pick your battles than run into them daily. Thinking about our actions and slower to react to them is also a sign of maturity.
If you struggle with making the right decisions or don’t have a mentor to guide you, always know that God is here to help you through. Experience only comes with TIME. There is no magic to learning and knowing more, you literally have to go “through life” to know “about life”. The old saying, “It’s not how you start…it’s how you finish”, cannot be more true. We might start out on a bumpy road in our early years, but the goal is to learn how to get on the right road in our later years.
“If any of you lacks Wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally, and without reproach, and it will be given to him”.